In the recent post, Resistance to Change – The Stronghold of Identity, I highlighted the tendency to adhere to our ideas about life… down to the very core of who we think we are.
After waking up to the fact that identity in itself is impermanent, only applies to our relative Earthly reality, and seemingly wreaks havoc on our very existence – I struggled for a while. There is quite a bit of information circulating these days regarding identity, interests, and ego. Some of that information may seem to point to a “problem” with identity itself. I mean, it is the source of all evil – isn’t it? Putting one’s self first, relishing in the delight when another falters, and actually hurting another for the purpose of personal gain. Hmmmm…
Identity is not the enemy.
If there is an enemy – and by enemy I am referring to something to be aware of so you can love it into resolution – it is the adherence to ideas as absolute truth. This clinging causes one to perpetuate thoughts that create stress in the mind and body, leading to words that are spoken, and actions that are carried out.
Ideas are not absolute truth. They are creations of the mind based on our experience of reality. Certainly, they can speak to relative truth – in the moment. Relative truth is always changing, though. Ideas change and grow and transform, too – especially when we allow the process to take place by opening a space within ourselves for transformation to occur.
As a mother I watch the identity of my children form and morph on a regular basis. For a while I felt a little stress about the natural development of one’s identity. I know, silly. A healthy identity or sense of self is important for the developing child. Key word: healthy.
So what constitutes a “healthy” identity? From the perspective I now hold, one which recognizes identity for what it is – a constantly changing mind map of a person with the basis founded in essence, Absolute. We can nurture a healthy sense of self by looking inside and affirming Truth.
At our core we are spirit. When we remember that and choose to tune into the aspects of ourselves that are inherently connected with Source we recognize that it is not necessary to cling to all of the little threads of identity we find so important. They are present – we are here – and we can rest in the simpleness of our basic nature. We may even laugh with ourselves.
And for those who celebrate – Happy Independence Day. May you experience independence from any mental adherence that creates stress in your experience.