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Force Free Parenting Isn’t Easy – Update on the Writing of the Book

A couple of years ago I began writing a book, Force Free Parenting. My vision for the book was for it to be a comprehensive exploration, resource and collection of alternatives regarding the nature and use of force in adult child relationships. My vision remains. However, my life has changed since I started writing and […]

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The Sixty Second Shift - An Alternative Approach to Blowing Up and Shutting Down

The Sixty Second Shift – An Alternative Approach to Blowing Up or Shutting Down

How could it be possible to shift your parenting experience in as little as sixty seconds? Simply by accessing the ability to choose while utilizing your imagination, you can open the door for change in the moment and in your relationship with your child (or yourself). Preparation: Begin taking whole body pictures when things are […]

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The Effects of Force – Chapter 3

We live in a cause and effect world. Actions bring about consequences, or results. When we consider the effects of force in our lives and relationships, some may seem really clear while others may be tricky to fully understand. This is largely due to the fact that we cannot determine another person’s experience. Communication is […]

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When Force Feels Necessary Part 2 – Real Life Example: Babies

When we are questioning the use of force, we are somehow deeming it potentially necessary. The next few posts will share some real life examples using ACT (Assess, Choose, Trust) to determine how we want to move forward when we are considering the use of force1. We have a myriad of choices in any given […]

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safe friend

The Safe Friend – An Alternative Approach to Blowing Up or Shutting Down

Do you ever feel completely alone in your parenting journey? Or maybe you have plenty of company, but it feels like something is missing – a trusted person you can talk to anytime. A safe friend can be an actual friend you know in person, someone you trust that you know from a distance (maybe […]

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Headed for the exit?

The Smooth Exit – An Alternative Approach to Blowing Up or Shutting Down

Do you stalk off and pout or brew in negative thoughts when you feel irritated? Consider exiting smoothly instead. Preparation: Let your child know you may leave the room at times to address feelings. Scene set up: The challenges of life are getting to you and while you are trying to be patient with the […]

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Are you a wave waiting to crash?

The Sensation Wave – An Alternative Approach to Blowing Up or Shutting Down

Have you ever felt like there’s a tsunami brewing inside of you? What happens when you resist or carry out waves of such intensity? Emotions are sensations in the body. Sure, we have a mental narrative that accompanies what we are feeling. However, when we tend to the presentation of emotion in the body we […]

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Try the sensation balloon...

The Sensation Balloon – An Alternative Approach to Blowing Up or Shutting Down

What does a balloon do as it is being blown up? It expands and accepts the air as part of itself so it can be enjoyed – until it pops. The sensation balloon is a way to meet the feelings you have in your body with gentle yet direct attention so you pop how and […]

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Brief Interruption and Invite for the Sane Parenting Challenge

What effect does force have in your life? What about your child’s? These are the topics we’ll be discussing for the next few posts, once I get back to writing the book! First, I have an important interruption and invitation for you – The Sane Parenting Challenge. When I wrote Sane Parenting (Chapter 17 – Practical Alternatives […]

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